Hey, let me tell you the secret, the secret of attracting any women to you. You ready for it? Here it is.
I – N – V – E – S – T – M – E – N – T
That’s right. We become attracted to anything that we invest our personal time, emotion, and energy into. Therefore, the key to getting women to want you is to get them to invest in you. Yes, it is that simple.
With investment someone’s attraction to you grows due to the time or effort they are investing in you. If you can combine that time or effort with emotions, the amount of their investment multiplies many times.
This is one of the main reason, women feel attractions toward so called, “bad boys” or “jerks”. Those types of guys don’t do things for women. Instead, they make women do things for them constantly (Hey, I am not saying you should be one of those guys. I am just saying that investment principle works, and works well)
Okay, guys. The simple fact that she is talking to us at all builds her investment in us on a small scale. This happens because we give greater value to things we have to work towards achieving. This is why it is almost completely counter productive to attempt to buy your way into someone’s life, and why many dating experts agree that, “Can I buy you a drink?” is a bad way to start conversation with a women.
By investment we are not looking to invest into her, rather we are looking to get her to invest into us. The more we work to achieve something the more value it has to us. Meanwhile any time another person is spending their time, effort or money on you they are making an investment and essentially attempting to build comfort with you, the effort the put in to you raising your value in their eyes.
There are a number of ways to get someone to invest time into us, however the easiest way is via conversation. A key point to note here is that she must be taking the time to invest effort into the conversation, and the more effort she put into the conversation the more she are investing, and therefore the more likely she will feel attracted towards us.
So how do we use the investment principle in speed dating? Well, we get her to talk most of the time. Our goal here is to get her to talk about things that are emotionally relevant for her like her childhood, hopes and dream, family, last vacation, so on and so forth. Got it? Good.
Source: ‘Attraction Explained‘ by Adam Lyons
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