Let’s talk strategy first.  With just minutes to connect with a prospective date, what’s the best way to spend that time?  To make a good impression, create a fun and comfortable exchange.  Ask questions that will help determine if we can carry a conversation.  No matter how curious we are to discover where she is from or what she majored in college, save those interview questions for later.  Our goal here is to have her enjoy the time, and invest in our interaction by talking most of the time.

Start off with a smile.  Women often decide if they like us or not within the first 30 seconds, so must do our best to appear confident and look like we are having a good time.  And we should be.  We just walked away from a bubbly kindergarten teacher who was our last date.  Plus, when we smile, we put the her at ease. That’s always a good strategy for getting to know someone.

What topics are good for these “mini-dates?”  Here’s a list of conversation starters to get the ball rolling easily.  These are opened ended questions that require a person to provide real information. Avoid yes/no questions which tend to create dead ends.  And, don’t forget that if we use these questions, be prepared with our own answers in case the tables are turned and we get asked the same thing!

• Tell me about your favorite vacation? What made it so good?
• If you had a day off next week and plenty of cash, what would you do?
• What makes you smile?
• What’s your favorite kind of food?
• If you could drive any car which one would you choose?
• What’s your favorite holiday memory?
• If you were an animal, what would you be?
• If you could try any job for one day – what would you choose?
• What do you do to relax?
• What’s your favorite movie and why?
• Would you rather spend a day in the woods or at the beach? Why?
• Tell me about a sporting event you’ll never forget

After our date responds, say something to acknowledge her by sharing our own perspective on the topic or say what we liked about the answer.  But we should keep our responses short.  Then we want have her invest more by asking follow-on questions.  Don’t worry about interpreting anything during the conversation itself.  Just remember our goal here is to get her invest more by talking most of the time.  And try keep the vibe fun and playful.

The most important thing about speed dating events is to relax and enjoy meeting new people.  Acquiring the skill for easy chit chat will serve us well in the long run.  Since we never know when we’ll meet “the one” or new friend who will introduce us to the right person, so get out there soon!

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Speed-dating events are usually held in restaurants and bars.  Participants are asked to register ahead of time to ensure an even ratio between men and women, although some services now offer registration at the door. Events cost approximately $20 to $40 per person.

Inside the venue, speed daters will find that tables are arranged to accommodate two participants at a time. One set of the speed daters, usually women, stay seated at the same table, and men move from table to table.  When the bell rings or buzzer sounds, the men move in predetermined order (i.e. next number up or down). The speed dater progresses from table to table until each participant has had a chance to meet the other.

Depending on the company, a speed date may last from three to eight minutes.  At the end of the date (three to eight minute interval), each dater makes a note if he or she would like to see the other person again. After that, the speed daters move on to the next table, and a new date begins.

The number of dates held in an evening can vary, but most services hold 10 to 20 dates.

In less than two hours, we have chance to talk to 10 to 20 women.  How many women did you talk to when you were out last Saturday night?

After the event, the speed daters turn in their date cards to event organizers. They may be contacted via e-mail the following day, or asked to log onto a Web site to enter the names or ID numbers of people whom they would like to see again. If two speed daters have registered a mutual interest in seeing each other again, the pair receives each other’s contact information. From there the couple can contact each other to arrange another meeting or date.

Well now we know what “speed dating” is.  And what happens at a speed dating event.  Next we’ll figure out why it is better for meeting women then a typical nighttime venue.

Source:  ‘How Speed Dating Works‘ at ‘HowStuffWorks‘

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